If there’s one thing I wish my younger self knew it’s this:
Pleasure is a practice.
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I wish the younger me knew, you’re not intrinsically deficient in your lack of pleasure.
I would whisper, ‘always having something to unravel & heal’ isn’t necessarily going to bring you more of pleasure, so don’t go to over the top down that path. Yes it’s necessary to master the skills of discomfort, vulnerability & tenderness. But this is just half the spectrum.
The other half is desire, joy, blessing, radiance. This too is a practice & skill to tolerate, allow in and embody.
I would tell myself to practice pleasure. Not by having lots of orgasms, but in the little moments of sunshine on my face at 10am when the sun peeks through my living room window just so.
Practice pleasure, in the sweet wishes I whisper as I light the candles on my family altar at dinner time.
Cultivating the skill of sensuous living is a practice of magic. One that I’m in utter rapture with right now.
On the podcast this week I spoke with a Mistress of Sensual Living, burlesque performer turned coach Mary Lofgren.
Earlier this year our school recognized Mary’s work in our 2022 Excellence In Coaching Celebrations in the category of Excellence in Embodiment Coaching – for practitioners working in the realm of feminine embodiment, feminine archetypes, sensuality, pleasure.
Mary casts a spell with her presence, poetic expression & beautiful take on embodied ways of living.
I have zero doubt you’ll enjoy this sumptuous conversation.
During this podcast, we’ll explore:
- Sensual living & the souls need for beauty
- The role of enchantment & ravishment as a path to blossoming
- The myth of self improvement & what burlesque taught Mary about body love
- Drenched in Delight – Mary shares some of her current sensual living practices
- Pleasure beyond capitalism – how we can move beyond buying more stuff (& the hollow pleasure of meaningless purchases) & into the flow of our sensual frequency
- The discipline required to cultivate pleasure & what to do with those times “I don’t want to do it”
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Mary Lofgren
Feminine Embodiment Coach & host of the Come To Your Senses Podcast
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Mary Lofgren is a Certified Feminine Embodiment Coach and host of https://schoolofsensualliving.com/. Her career in the Embodied Arts spans 22 years. Mary’s specialty is helping women slow down to experience life through their senses, and unlock intuition through embodiment. In addition to her career as a coach Mary is a licensed esthetician, yoga and Qoya teacher, a former burlesque performer, and an addiction recovery mentor. Mary feels most at home when smelling a horse’s neck, is a sucker for intimate objects in the shape of animals, and comes alive when seeing and creating art. She lives in the mountains of North Carolina with her dog Winnie, and her favorite quote is by Charlie Mackesy: “What is success?” asked the boy. “To love”, said the Mole.
Resources
- Mary Lofgren links – https://schoolofsensualliving.com | Instagram | Facebook
- Mary’s podcast
- Mary’s current offerings & how you can work with her
- Lady Groove Fine Art Photography
- Jo Weldon Burlesque
- Mama Gena “pleasure is a discipline”
- Feminine Embodiment Coaching – an emotional embodiment & vulnerability-based professional training for coaches
- Find a Feminine Embodiment Coach in our Professional Directory
- School of Embodied Arts
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