Every awake and aware woman knows what it’s like to be disconnected.
Cut off from our true self – our inner knowing, inner compass & inner aliveness.
Disconnect can show up in a million different ways. The women I’ve been speaking with this past week have been telling me…
I have no idea what I’m doing. I feel confused.
I’m just not sure I’m ever going to get there. I feel exhausted.
I just can’t navigate my way forward. I don’t know what to do next.
I know that feeling of disconnect well. For years it plagued my life every-single-effing-day.
Knowing that there was something really special to be felt & experience in this life – but not knowing how to get in and access it.
Even now disconnect pays me a visit from time to time….
She might show up as my expression/writing not flowing.
Or my body constricting or shying away when my man tries to connect.
Our inner-disconnect creates a world of outer-disconnect.
She shuts off our inner love, and we shy away from true communion and intimacy with those around us.
She closes down our self-compassion, so we become lone wolves unworthy of asking for help or the support we need.
She cuts off our inspiration, stopping the flow of all creativity & pleasure from bubbling up from within.
She constricts our abundance, leaving us unable to see the riches right in front of us, or believing that we could ask for even more.
Disconnect happens when we dis-embody.
Everything becomes hard work. We feel exhausted. Frustrated. Flat.
Our survival mind kicks into overdrive and we get stuck-in-our-heads.
Our adrenal glands start firing (and don’t stop) and we become fatigued.
Once upon a time disconnect would have me looking for the solution to my problem.
She would have me:
- Tell my man… Leave me alone, I need some time.
- Rework my next biz-offer, or plans (for the one-millionth-time)
- Turn to my to-do-list… and get shit done.
And in doing so – she would keep me in her world.
She would keep me “safe” from “change”. She would stop me evolving. She would have me surrender to her (out-dated) way of living. Survival would triumph over soul.
Disconnect is a habit.
Disconnect is drama.
Disconnect is an addiction.
And many of us are hooked.
Moving out of disconnect and back into a state of connection is the practice of embodiment [being in your body, not in your head].
It begins with these three steps…
Ask yourself: in what way do I keep fuelling this disconnect? What story am I telling myself? How am I spending my time?
Where we put our time and attention show us in a very real, pragmatic way what we truly value… the Truth we are actually living.
Personally, I fuel my disconnect by ‘working at it’ rather than ‘receiving it’. For example I might sit down to my computer expecting inspiration to flow and the next steps to be clear – but being behind my computer is not the purpose of my life, and it’s not the most inspired or connected place for me to be. Knowing this habit reminds me stop feeling the disconnect and spinning further out of control.
Once we’ve paused, the natural inertia of our disconnect is broken and we have a chance to soften. Re-connection doesn’t happen through force or hard work – because that is not the way of the feminine.
The only way to re-connect & re-embody our inner channels of alignment is to melt & open.
To let the survival mind melt into the safety that is (already) here.
To let our adrenals rest.
To remind ourselves that all the resources we need are already within us.
This is a great audio for you to slow down & relax to if you need support. A guided embodiment practice is my favourite way to re-open the body & get out of the mind.
When you’re busy being disconnected you can’t see what’s right in front of you.
I know when I’m stuck in my own cycle of not there, so much work, confused & stuck I rarely look up and give genuine gratitude for what I do have.
As a woman who grew up in the first world, with two loving parents and every support in my education and spirited life I have a lot to be grateful for. Sure there has been less-than-perfect events. But on a whole I’m living in the top 2% of affluence and lifestyle (according to this cool calculator).
Perspective is a beautiful thing and when we can pause long enough to generate some true gratitude [gratitude that you deeply feel, not just a list of 5 things that doesn’t touch your heart] you open your energetic-channels of receiving and allow the safety & goodness of what is here to be allowed in.
Re-connecting and re-embodying is a way of living that with practice can become our default, automatic setting.
Showing up as an embodied woman in every area of our life is what we all deserve & what our heart is asking of us.
So where will you begin? Let me know in the comments section which of the 3 steps resonates with you the most.
