Last week I showed up at my regular pedi place – only to be turned away. They were too busy!
I was stunned. This had never happened before.
I desperately wanted a pedi & the “beautiful & put-together” feeling it gives me (even when I’m rocking a baby-vomit-shirt & don’t have anything together).
In fact, it was the ONLY thing I did want.
The ONLY thing I could consciously identify I desired.
As a new momma, I’ve noticed that I’ve forgotten a lot of my personal desires.
If my baby is health/sleeping/well then I’m happy. Our energy is so enmeshed that right now that her desires, are my desires.
Except for that 1 thing I REALLY wanted… my pedicure.
So when that was ‘taken away’…
I was totally clueless about how to proceed.
Living in the absence of desire is a dangerous place to be.
But you don’t have to be a new mum to be lacking in the DESIRE department.
You too might be short on DESIRE if you find yourself filling your day with…
- Other peoples desires & goals
- Things that ‘need to be done’
- All the practicalities all the time
- “Just going through the motions”
- Tuning out with your numbing-agent-of-choice (food, Netflix, or fantasy fiction)
Desire-less-living is a dangerous place to hang out too long.
When we don’t take time to cultivate our desires, we’ll end up filling our hearts with everyone else’s & lose ourselves in the process.
This is a breeding ground for frustration, resentment & loss of identity.
For me, it’s been essential to lose my identity of maiden, so that I can discover my new desires as mother (an ongoing process).
But as my baby grows & others begin to love & care for her more – I am being forced to re-connect with my desires.
It’s not been easy.
We’re sold so many ideas of what our desires SHOULD be.
As a woman, I’m told my desires should be to:
- be beautiful
- be skinny
- be a good mother & put my baby first
As a coach & entrepreneur I’m told my desires should be to:
- get more clients
- make more money
When in reality my desire are to:
- feel life FULLY
- express myself & feel creativity flow through me
- model the most alive woman I can be for my daughter
- save the fucking planet 1 choice at a time
The model of feminine embodiment holds that your TRUTH, your DESIRES, are alive & well inside you ALWAYS.
At it’s most primal level, desire exist inside you as a FEELING.
The feeling comes first.
I love my pedi because it makes me feel… beautiful, cared for & nourished.
Pretty toes just happen to be a sensual side effect.
The answers you seek, the purpose you’re destined for, the clarity you’re waiting on… it’s INSIDE you already.
But you have to pause & FEEL it.
The job of a powerful coach is to partner with you to ask the right questions… so that you mine the depths of your desires.
The job of a feminine leader is to bring this kind of feeling-first way of operating to her work & her business.
The job of every woman is to tune in & listen to your desire.
So firstname, a question for you this Thursday.
Q: How do you want to feel?
Q: What action could bring that feeling into your life today?
You’re allowed to start small. Get the pedi.
Then let the beautiful feelings that are birthed from this micro-desire fuel the fire of your great passions & purpose here on this amazing planet.