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How can I bring more spirituality + embodiment into my relationship? <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>It\u2019s the million dollar question. You are growing, you are exploring + becoming a more conscious woman and you are SO ready for your man to come along to the party. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>#1 <\/span>Don\u2019t ask for permission <\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

<\/span>As we grow + develop, we begin to know ourselves more + see ourselves differently. These internal changes can feel profound within us, yet from the outside they can seem subtle. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>We are so ready for our lovers, our friends, our clients to see us in a certain way, and often that means we begin to look for validation and signs that they do<\/em> see us in a certain light.<\/span><\/h3>\n

<\/span>Yet looking for validation is, indirectly, looking for permission + asking another to quantify your worth.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>As a woman, your nature is feminine, the same as mother earth. Her nature \u2013 your divine nature \u2013 is sensual and flow, it is fierce and beautiful, it is chaotic and wild. It is highly emotional, and unpredictable and sensual. It is your nature to be all these things, and you are, when you claim them for yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>I know that as I was claiming myself as a sensual woman I had the expectation that my man would validate what I was feeling\u2026 yet at first he didn\u2019t.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

<\/span>He didn\u2019t validate my sensual dance, instead he wondered if I was trying too hard. He didn\u2019t endorse my more sensual wardrobe, instead he wanted me to remain the maiden-like-girl he had always known.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>If his permission had been the defining factor in my growth \u2013 I would have stayed still. Yet I knew what was best for me, and I asked him to trust. To trust that this exploration was really important and based in integrity for me. <\/span><\/p>\n

ACTION:<\/strong> Tune in now + ask yourself is there something you are waiting for permission from your partner to be\/do\/have, and are you ready to give that permission to yourself?<\/span><\/p>\n

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#2 Lead by Example<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Can you sometimes tell something is wrong, or on your man’s mind\u2026 but he just won\u2019t open to explore it with you?<\/span> <\/span>If you are anything like me a handful of different spiritual tools and tips come to mind that I want to share….
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<\/span>You start thinking \u201cI know exactly what you could do!\u201d <\/em>or \u201cI know just the thing that could help!\u201d<\/em> yet every time you broached the subject he just shuts down further (which frustrated you even more!).<\/span><\/h3>\n

My man used to be a closed book and no amount of questioning or revisiting the topic would get him to open up until\u2026 I learnt the power of vulnerability and leading by example. <\/span><\/p>\n

Spirituality and consciousness practices are not about \u201cyou should be living this way or living that way\u201d.<\/em> This kind of helping, while based in the most noble of intentions, can sometimes come across as \u201cI\u2019m more spiritual or aware than you\u201d<\/em>. I’ve definitely been guilty of this. <\/span><\/p>\n

These kinds of approaches often push our men further away as we explain the logic or the theory of our intents. <\/span><\/h3>\n

What REALLY works is leading by example, by being the first one to step into vulnerable expression, or pain, or shame.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Leading by example from your heart, not your head, is where the magic happens.<\/p>\n

<\/span>The intimacy of the bedroom is often where these chats begin, a safe space, without distractions of phones\/computers\/children, to start\u2026 by expressing how you feel, by sharing what is present in your heart, by being the example of opening and asking for support\u2026 and demonstrating that it\u2019s okay to lean onto your partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>ACTION:<\/strong> before you go to sleep tonight take a moment to create some space with your man, and go first in vulnerability \u2013 sharing deeply and authentically how you felt\/what\u2019s troubling you. Allow yourself to open deeply + see what he shares back as a result\u2026. <\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>#3 Keep him In the loop <\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Keeping your man informed is essential for both of your sanity \u2013 this is never more true than when you are \u201cgoing through stuff\u201d<\/em> or about to bleed<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Through open discussion of what my body is feeling + what part of my cycle I am in, my man knows to adjust his expectations during certain times of the month.<\/span><\/h3>\n

\"jenna-rests-on-hammock\"<\/p>\n

<\/span>Just this weekend my man was pitching our tent, he turned to me and said \u201cCan you help \u2013 I can\u2019t do this alone\u201d.<\/em> From my comfortable vantage point on my hammock, I replied\u00a0\u201chonestly, I can\u2019t right now, I need to rest, you know I\u2019m bleeding\u201d<\/em> and so he went about pitching our tent by himself\u2026. Without resentment, without blame. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Our men desire to support + protect us \u2013 but if they don\u2019t know, if they don\u2019t understand, they can\u2019t help. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>ACTION:<\/strong> Start a conversation with your man about what stage of your cycle you are in, and what that means for your energy, inspiration and sex drive. Let him know because this impacts his happiness too.<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>As women it\u2019s our divine role to bring home what we learn, and elevate our family and community with the beautiful spiritual tools + practices we are learning and practicing.<\/span> <\/span><\/h3>\n

<\/span>Now it\u2019s your turn. <\/span><\/p>\n